So everyone around me is having babies lately. My cousin is pregnant, two of my dearest friends just had babies and I am surrounded by all these pregnant women at church... I think i am coming down with a fever... Baby fever...
We have 3 wonderful children, they keep me so busy and the bigger they get the busier we get as a family, but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to add just one more. Our home would certainly get more crowded, but that is something we already are, so one more body, really would not make that much difference. Our finances could handle the expenses related to bringing along another child, so that is not so much an issue either. Time is the issue, time that we spend with our 3 little ones, and dividing that time between one more seems scary. Also time for us as a couple. It is almost impossible to get a sitter for all 3 kids at once. Usually we can get rid of two at a time without too much hassle, but it is that 3rd one that we are always toting around on date night... not that I would wanna change it, but sometimes couple time is so nice when it is just the two of us and we don't get that very often, so adding one more, would cut down on our private time that much more. Sleep is another issue. We got one out of our bed just in time to have our youngest decide that she liked our bed better than hers, who can blame her, the two people she loves most on either side of her snuggling together, feeling warm and safe... but she sleeps all night, and for the most part so do we. So adding another baby would mean no sleep for months (mostly for me) and a tired Mommy makes for a cranky Mommy too!
Adding another is a big decision, it will require more patience, more love, and more of a lot of other things too, but somehow I think that God provides you with the tools to use when you trust in Him... so for now, we will wait, and Pray a lot about what is best for us as a family, but in my heart I know there is room for... Just one more...
4 comments:
okay smartie pants...i'm commenting (cough cough eventhoughyouhaven'tcommentedonmybloginforever cough cough). I think that you having another kid would be great. You would always have enough food for everyone. Just pick and choose which one you aren't going to feed. ;)
I remember the time feelings when my 2 and 3 dk were born. I felt like I wasn't giving the other dk's enough time and attention.
But as time went by I learned to adjust and make changes. I think they all get time and attention.
I'm sure if you or I had a fouth child they would too :)
Girl - I don't know what to say except that whatever you decide - you will make it work! You are so amazing with the 3 you have... here I struggle with 2... I can't imagine 4! Hey - I could give you one of mine! Balance the equation in your house 2 boys, 2 girls!
My 4th is 15 mo. old now. Sometimes I just think, "What if we had stopped at 3???" The thought is horrifying just because I cannot imagine life without him! Adding the 4th was easy - For me adding the second one was the biggest adjustment. Enough of my opinion! :)
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